I'm Still Not All Put Back Together

Well, it's been a year now.  And since it's Domestic Violence Awareness Month:

When my clients experience the death of someone who harmed them, whether it was a family member, partner, or anyone else, they often experience what I refer to as the trauma trifecta: there is often an initial sense of relief, followed by a feeling of guilt for feeling this relief, and they also often feel sadness—often for the loss of what could have been had the person not been abusive. Often there is a feeling of sadness or of having missed out on what could have been, coupled with confusion as to why you are feeling sad when someone was abusive to you.

That last sentence.  Thought I was going to blog more about this, but I just can't.

Selah.